Thursday, June 2, 2011

PYHO: PLEASE DON'T JUDGE ME AND MY CHILDREN . . .

I read a post earlier today that got me to thinking.  I know, scary right?! 

Kim over at The Child caught my attention this morning. 

I haven't been writing much lately.  It's not because I don't have anything to say, because for those of you that know me, you know I ALWAYS have something to say!  But I haven't been writing much because I feel like my opinions or feelings may upset someone.  There are a lot of things I'd like to write about and get them off my chest, but I'm always worrying about other people will think.  It seems like I spend my whole life worrying about other people think.  And it's so *frustrating*.  So starting today, I'm going to write WHAT I want, WHEN I want, and try not to worry so much about what others are thinking.  So if I upset you or offend you, I'm sorry.  But remember, these are MY feelings and opinions.  Not anyone else's.  And I don't expect everyone to agree with me.

So here goes:

I have 3 beautiful children.  And I love them dearly.  But I think you can tell when people DON'T have kids.  Let me give you an example.  My cousin's little boy called 911 when he was about 5 years old.  Now her son is the same age as my Andrew, so this was about 4 years ago.  As she's telling me the story of what happened, and how her husband reacted, I started laughing.  I mean, REALLY laughing!  Then I told her, 'I'm sorry, I know it's not funny."  To which she replied that it was okay, now that it's over, she was laughing too.  I was picturing her husband talking to the cops, and it just cracked me up; especially because I know her husband and I know her child and I could TOTALLY picture the situation as it was happening.

So a few days later I was relaying the story to some other friends.  And one of them got really upset, yelled at me, and said, "I don't think it's funny at all."  Now, before you think I'm some crazy person that laughs at everything, let me explain.  No, it wasn't funny when it happened.  But I wasn't there when it happened.  I was told about it afterward.  And he DID get punished.  But, like I said before, I think you can tell the difference between people that HAVE kids, and people that have NEVER had kids.  As a parent, when I heard that story, my first thought was, "thank goodness that was not my child."  But before I could even finish that though,  I knew that it very well could have been. So yeah, to me it was funny. 

Before I had kids I was one of those people that said, "my child will never do that!"  Then I had them.  And guess what?  They did!  So when they were younger I'd say, "well he'll never do that when he gets older."  But guess what?  He did.  Now, I just pretty much assume that what's going to happen is going to happen, and the only thing I can affect is MY reaction and make sure they understand why what they did was wrong.  But anyone that has kids knows that sh*t happens.  It is what it is.  And you can't change that.  

Even as adults we don't always make wise decisions.  And we're adults.  So how can we expect OUR kids, or anyone else's, to make wise decisions all the time?  We can't.  It's not fair.  So before you judge MY kids or someone else's kids, think about this.  Have YOU never messed up before in your life?  Have you never done anything wrong?  If so, then by all means, you have the right to judge me and my kids.  But if not, please keep your judgement to yourself.   

5 comments:

Amy said...

I had one playing on the floor with the phone when he was about 5 months old. And I didn't think there was any possible way that he could make a long distance phone call and I was dealing with something with the 2 and 5 year olds and thought... Oh I'll get to that in a minute.

Yep.... next thing I knew, the police were knocking on the door. My 5 month old had somehow managed to dial 911 on the phone. Do I win parent of the year?

I still laugh about it.

Shell said...

People who don't have kids have NO CLUE.

Babes Mami said...

This is funny because I was just at a friends house tonight with my two year old and her and her bf do not have kids and aren't planning on it and every few seconds or anytime he moved she was saying something or making that 'ah ah' noise where they are like nervous that the child might somehow do something.

So funny! They really have no idea!

Anonymous said...

Yep, kids do the darnest things. I was llucky, most of my friends had older kids that did kid things, so by the time you all did it, it wasn't as big a deal.

Melody said...

I'm glad you are writing what you want and not worrying about what others think. I too have always been worried about what others think but no one else seemed to care what I think at all when they had something to say....soooo speak us and tell us what you want to say. I love your blogs!